Amanda McGovern

Relationships-
Where is the line between you and me and is there only one line? Is it in fact a box or a bubble that you live in? It seems there are certain ways to enter and certain ways to be exited and it all seems to be in a web of emotions, intelligence, psychology and soul.
Is an intimate relationship -sharing your relationship with yourself with another-?   How do you define relationship with another? What is it that we are striving for? Is it merely co-existing, is it satisfying needs and desires, or is it mostly commitment?

I started thinking that there are different levels on or in which couples or two people connect.  how many, I don’t know. It probably has to be more than one to keep two people together. But what are the most important levels and is each actually able to be clear with that and where and how they want to connect.
Some levels I have come up with:

Communication- specifically talking, listening and being able to understand one another and feel satisfied after talking and better about yourself.

Physical- (unfortunately just now I am sad that I am over analyzing and I miss being blinded by love. Youthful love is probably blindness like that U2 song. Mature love must be loving and accepting while seeing clearly.)  Anyhow I still want to continue this discussion. Physical connection is feeling the other is touching them the right way, being able to feel their intentions behind the touch and feel that it is about love and not about having a sex object. Then there is the visual aspect as well. This includes how someone looks at the other and how that affects them, or using eyes to communicate. Liking the look of your partner’s body and facial features. But most of all it is just a natural connection that is passionate. Very simple and can’t be made up.

Spiritual- Hearing through the air when the other is dancing. Being lifted higher when the other is practicing their love, knowing when someone is out there thinking of you even if it is delayed… you can hear it and you think you might have crossed their mind too. Inspired randomly to contact someone because something reminded you of them. A deeper level than emotional or connected to emotional if you are that kind of person.

Emotional-  Feeling extreme empathy or sympathy for another. Wanting to help them however you can. Feel like you want to take care of them even if they don’t ask for it. Connection through some strong experience of pain. Like one hurt heart meets another. (A match made in hell .

Expression- Two people have a desire to express something similar. They want to share it with the world. They are very passionate about it. Or one likes how the other expresses his or her self and strives to be similar. Being in an open state of mind.

Work- Meeting at work or having compatible jobs. A way to connect through gossip or dropping eaves. Two people want to work together to create a business. Or on another plane, dance communities can be very strong because there is a lot of understanding and mutual working conditions and paths crossed over and over. It is always about puzzle pieces falling in place from past connections.

Play- meeting at a bar or nightclub.  Being into a scene that someone else is. Could be a lot of fun to become popular in a scene or have had your eye on someone for awhile merely because you hang at the same spots.

So, it seems my point is to decide where i want to connect with someone intimately to bring about my happiness. And make sure that it is mutual. Or at least open it up for discussion to really take an honest look at what is going on and why there are problems in relationships.

I invite more levels of connection to be posted here. Thanks!